Somewhere in my travels I came across Ross Rosenberg. He has coined a couple of terms related to codependency. The first is "Self-Love Deficit Disorder." In
an article summarizing SLDD and how he treats it, Rosenberg writes:
"Codependency" is an outdated term that connotes weakness and emotional fragility, both of which are far from the truth. The replacement term, “Self-Love Deficit Disorder” or SLDD takes the stigma and misunderstanding out of codependency and places the focus on the core shame that perpetuates it.
The codependency arises when people:
repeatedly are attracted to or find them self intractably in a relationship with a narcissist despite the lessons they keep willing themselves to learn ... [and they] feel trapped in their relationships because they confuse sacrifice and selfless caring with commitment, loyalty and love.
Rosenberg also has coined the term "
codependency anorexia," which happens:
when [codependents] hit bottom and can no longer bear the pain and the harm meted out to them from their malevolent pathological narcissists. ... In an effort to protect themselves ... they flip their vulnerability switch to "off," which results in a complete shutdown of their emotional, relational, and sexual machinery.
Stuff to ponder.
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